Long Distance Love - Is it for You?

Relationships in general have a lot of mountains to climb with plenty of compromises, but when one adds a long distance relationship into the mix, things can get very complicated indeed. The usual dating relationship involves making plans for dates, spacing out time accordingly between loved ones, coming up with good conversations... All of these things can be difficult in a "normal" relationship. It isn't until someone tries a long distance relationship that the truth is realized about how much work actually goes into making such a relationship continue on strongly.

For instance, a point that comes up very often is the subject of trust. A "normal" relationship requires trust as it is, but it's much easier to trust someone who you see on a regular basis. Try to trust someone whom you see maybe once a week, maybe just once a month. The gap between the two situations is enormous, and suddenly it seems that there is a lot more work involved in the long distance relationship.

Another common issue with long distance relationships is that of communication. When two people don't get to see each other on a regular basis, they may resort to using technology such as webcams, cell phones, microphones, telephones, etc. to keep in touch. The important thing is to maintain comfortable, in depth communication. Long distance relationships can very possibly work out, but only if people are willing to put work into them. If the conversations start to dry up and become non-existent, then it becomes the equivalent of two strangers randomly planning to meet once in a while, and that's it. There is no solid relationship.

One of the more challenging aspects of a long distance relationship is to keep one's self in control. When there isn't a significant other around for long periods of time, it is common for one partner, or both, to start taking note of other people who attract them. It becomes easier and easier to meet someone else for "just a coffee". This has to be avoided if there is any hope to maintain the long distance relationship. Effort needs to be put forth in the rare meetings that the couple get to remind each other why they are striving to be together.

Long distance relationships can work out, but both partners have to be strong, independent people. Don't get involved in a long distance relationship if you can't handle it - it just causes a lot of heart ache.